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Help Christian Parents Disciple Their Kids

I have come to realize that most youth leaders are young. Most of you are closer in age to the kids in your group than to their parents. No wonder you feel intimidated when the task is to teach & encourage parents to disciple their kids. But this is the task, the surveys say, that needs to be addressed as a top priority to stem the flow of youth away from the church. My best suggestion if you are unable to overcome your feelings in this area is to delegate this important task to trusted older adults in the church. It's a big job and will take the cooperation of the entire church.

Ed Stetzer, director of LifeWay Research is quoted as saying this:
"There is no easy way to say it, but it must be said. Parents and churches are not passing on a robust Christian faith and an accompanying commitment to the church. We can take some solace in the fact that many do eventually return. But, Christian parents and churches need to ask the hard question, ‘What is it about our faith commitment that does not find root in the lives of our children?’"


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Shift

Whether you have a full-blown family ministry in place or you're just getting started, Shift gives you a practical, workable plan that equips parents to be faith influencers in their homes--and you won't have to reconfigure your entire ministry to make it happen! Shift gets you in gear with tools that make better use of seven rites of passage your church is most likely already celebrating...already marking as families move through their faith journey together.The birth of a baby, faith commitment, preparing for adolescence, commitment to purity, passage to adulthood, high school graduation, and life in Christ.As you tap into the natural patterns of child development and family, you'll motivate parents when they're most open to shaping their children's faith. Shift puts family discipleship at church and at home on one simple, common path. One home at a time, you can move a fledgling family ministry effort to one that's firing on all 6 cylinders! This is a family ministry approach that's attainable and sustainable.Brian Haynes is the associate pastor overseeing spiritual formation at Kingsland Baptist Church in Katy, Texas. He is the creator of the Legacy Milestones strategy that inseparably links church and home to equip the generations. Brian earned a Doctor of Ministry for his work in discipleship and family ministry. Learn more about Brian and the Legacy Milestones at legacymilestones.com.


 

Parents attending churches that have youth programs seem to have completely abdicated the responsibility of discipleship of their kids to the youth leader or the Sunday school teacher. In fact the data seems to show that Sunday School and youth group is having a detrimental effect on kids spiritual growth.

More is caught than taught.

While a youth pastor or Sunday School teacher can have a pivotal relationship with a teen, the parent/child relationship is by far the most influential relationship in every kid's life. Kids learn to be Christian adults by watching their parents react to life in a Christ-like manner.

 
527262: Building Your Family to Last Building Your Family to Last
By Kari Torjesen Malcolm Review by: Cynthia S. Lathrop

In "Building Your Family to Last" Kari Torjesen Malcolm reminds us that this world is not our home, but our life here is a journey we walk with our loved ones as we move toward the City of God. Any distractions from this journey toward God's city ultimately reroutes our priorities and leads to difficulties down that road.

Our marriages are the starting point and a Christian marriage begins with commitment, "the decision to act lovingly even when you don't feel like it." This Christian marriage is marked by mutual respect and understanding which births a mutuality in marriage and ministry.

Malcolm exposes those things that slow down our walk: sex, money, and power. She uses Scripture to reveal God's heart on these issues. The responsibility for the nurturing and upbringing of our children, she stresses, are both the mother's and father's biblical mandate.
52581: Ministry of Nurture
How can you build a faith into your kids that will stand up to real life? Duffy Robbins answers it definitively in this sensitive, in-depth, and practical look at building real-life discipleship into your kids.
Eating dinner together is known to be one of the best things a family can to together. My dad would read a chapter from the Bible after dinner every night then close in prayer. While some of the Old Testament stories can be quite gruesome I learned the Bible by reading it through many times during my child hood. This has served my faith well. Try this book by Nancy Gutherie for family-friendly devotions after dinner.
One Year of Dinner Table Devotions and Discussion Starters

One Year of Dinner Table Devotions and Discussion Starters

Getting the kids to turn off the TV and video games is challenge enough--let alone gathering as a family to read and discuss the Bible! One Year of Dinner Table Devotions & Discussion Starters helps families start where they are already gathered together on a daily basis--around the dinner table. As the meal comes to a close, family members can take turns turning to the dinner-table devotion for that day, designed to be done together as a family in 10 to 15 minutes. The result is a meaningful daily discussion in which every family member can participate, drawing the whole family closer to God . . . and each other.


An alarming trend of summarily dismissing parent teacher/volunteers when a youth pastor is hired is only exacerbating the isolation of teenagers from their primary imitative relationships. Parents should be encouraged to join in every aspect of youth ministry. The ministry of the entire church should be aimed at reinforcing the family.
447941: Simple Student Ministry: A Clear Process for Strategic Youth Discipleship
  Simple Student Ministry fine tunes the proven methods of #1 best seller Simple Church for the unique field of youth discipleship.
123915: Raising Kids to Extraordinary Faith: Helping Parents & Teachers Disciple the Next Generation Raising Kids to Extraordinary Faith: Helping Parents & Teachers Disciple the Next Generation
By Debbie Salter Goodwin / Beacon Hill Press

Raising Kids to Extraordinary Faith is a valuable resource that gives parents and teachers a practical guide for developing Christian virtue in children. Filled with spiritual growth ideas and suggestions for developing a faith-enriched home and church environment, it provides everyone who influences children purposeful advice, spiritual insight, and essential awareness to help them make discipleship the key component of their parenting, teaching, or mentoring. Paperback.
 
In one of my groups most of the kids were in a single parent situation. Teaching parenting skills to the remaining parent was helpful but an additional strategy needed to be employed. We needed to equip the congregation to be extended families. Teaching church members to consider themselves older brothers and sisters in Christ to the teens is what Jesus recommended in Mark 3:31-35. If kids receive nurture and support from their church family they will be more likely to return to church for these same reasons as an adult.

Character Building For Families
Topical Bible Character Educations Studies for the
entire family.

071836: When Kids Hurt: Help for Adults Navigating the Adolescent Maze When Kids Hurt: Help for Adults Navigating the Adolescent Maze
By Chap Clark & Steve Rabey / Baker Books

Clark's best-selling ethnographic study Hurt revealed the hard truth about contemporary adolescence: societal changes and systemic abandonment have left teenagers navigating the difficult transition to adulthood alone. Here he and Rabey sum up that research in an accessible form and lay out practical ways youth workers, volunteers, teachers, counselors, and parents should respond. An indispensable resource! Paperback.

10 Minute Moments - The Red Stuff

10 Minute Moments: The Red Stuff  

Suggest this resource to parents as a devotional for their kids.The Red Stuff is a 31-day devotional and journal that gets kids into the words of Jesus - aka "The Red Stuff" - and keeps their spiritual journey on the path.

Click on the book to order from Simply Youth Ministry.

More devotional suggestions.

You're A Youth Minister (full page)
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You're a Youth Minister

Use this article as a church handout to increase your church's awareness of the need to include young people in their lives.

Many news reports of coaches, day-care workers, even youth pastors accused of child abuse and sexual ms-conduct have caused parents to be very guarded with the relationships their kids have with other adults. The isolation of nuclear families alienates children from the strength of extended families.

Mature christians need to be aware of the incredible blessings that come from being a surrogate grandparent, uncle, aunt, older brother or sister, to the youth in their church.

832432: Family-Based Youth Ministry Revised and Expanded Family-Based Youth Ministry Revised and Expanded
By Mark DeVries / Inter-varsity Press

In a culture that worships youth even as it abandons its young, this book gets adults, families and congregations involved. If you are disappointed with the results from the glitzy programs and entertaining activities you've used with your church's young people, then this is the book for you. Family-Based Youth Ministry is a multigenerational approach that takes seriously the job of discipling teens and building mature believers. This revised and updated edition continues to hold out its bold challenge: Young people belong in the life of their church, and the church belongs in the lives of its youth. Now featured is free curriculum for use with youth and young adults together.
Doug Fields, in his book, Your First Two Years In Youth Ministry says, " You're an influence, not the influence." Here are resources to help parents disciple their teens. Christian parents are your allies in youth ministry, not your enemies.
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