Here are some simple do's and don'ts for Christian youth group ministry success. For some "gifted" youth leaders these suggestions are
no-brainers. However, I've actually seen all don't ideas practiced in various churches so some youth leaders may need the hints:

Ten ways to create a great
youth group:

1. Arrive early. Make sure the lights are on, make room temp comfortable, and get the music pumping. Get the snacks out. Greet them with excitement.

2. Create a party atmosphere with Christmas lights or other party lights as your budget can afford. Have activities like ping-pong and video games ready to play.

3. Provide them a safe place to relax and be themselves. Let them laugh and holler, wiggle and giggle. Have as few rules as possible. Never scold for spills or messes. Never yell at them.

4. Come prepared but be flexible: Have several lesson plans ready to go. Read the kids' mood and select the plan that best suits their needs that day. Be flexible. Some days they just need to vent. Be prepared to listen sympathetically. Sometimes they just want to play.

5. Surprise them: Wear a costume that fits the lesson. Show movie clips sometimes. Have a game with great prizes. Have a particularly good snack or meal. Have extra activities like movie night at your house, or a shopping trip.

6. Learn their names, favorite snacks, like's and dislikes. Remember their birthdays. Send them cards. Attend their sports events and plays. Sit together in church. Celebrate them.

7. Be consistent: Meet at the same place and time every week. Provide a clear biblical message each time.

8: Serve them: Refill their cups, bring the chips over, reheat their tots. Spoil them.

9. Provide great snacks. Click here for great snack suggestions.

10. Pray, Pray Pray! Ask them for their prayer requests weekly. Ask them for an update on the prayer request a couple weeks later.

Ten ways to kill your youth group:

1. Show up to the youth group meeting 10 minutes late. Let the kids stand outside in the dark then wait for you to set everything up.

2. Assign an elder to do the group as his duty. After all, teaching is an elders spiritual gift whether they like it or not. Never hire a youth pastor.

3. Drag them to the old-folks home to sing hymns as a service project whether they are spiritually mature enough or not.

4. Insist they call you Mr. & Mrs. to show proper respect. Have them raise their hands to speak during lesson time, sit quietly, and pay attention, just like school. Punish them if they don't.

5. Arrive with no lesson plan. Just shoot from the hip. They can have a party anywhere. The one thing you offer them is solid biblical teaching. Deprive them of that and they won't come back.

6. Do the same thing every time. Do not do fun side activities.

7. Never learn their names. Do not talk to them except when in class.

8. Siphon the kids off to help in the nursery and younger grade Sunday School classes.

9. Make them pay for their snacks or don't bother providing any at all.

10. Never pray for them.

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